By Ndabari Kongu
You don’t forgive people because you are weak. You forgive people because you are strong enough to know that people make mistakes. Either way I think the hardest thing to do is to forgive. If it’s easy for you to forgive, bravo to you ♥. Forgiving even yourself proves hard at some point.
Why do we need to forgive though? I mean isn’t it normal to hold grudges and get mad at someone for the rest of your life? Cut communication, live like they don’t exist. Say you don’t care but deep down, you’re mad and all you want is to throw daggers aimed at their head. Throw shade when you see them….. (That’s what we all do hahaha isn’t it). At the end of it all we just want to suppress our emotions and act like we are all hardcore, but it’s just us that hurt. It’s us that have to pull a fake look when person x is walking by (we all have those silly things we do when we see someone we just can’t forgive.)
Think about it though ; what if you decided to forgive them and move on with life? Wouldn’t life be a bit less dramatic? A bit less more painful? Forgiveness is a choice that you have to make over and over until you are free of hurt. Therefore; if you choose to forgive, you’re winning hunny (no doubt about it.) You won’t have to make faces when you see people. You won’t have to come up with mean words to say to or about a person. It’s like taking off a burden. You know how to good it feels when you’ve been carrying something heavy then you put it down? That’s how forgiveness works. You feel free.. Forgiveness in itself a form of love.
It’s impossible though, to actually forgive others if you can’t forgive yourself. We all have something that we’ve done that we aren’t proud of. We need to let go. We need to realise we can only learn from mistakes and instead of beating ourselves up about it, we use it to grow. Forgive yourself and move on. It’s the only way to be happy and make it easy for you to forgive others.
*Forgiveness simply means loving someone enough to pursue healing instead of punishment when they have wronged you.
Forgive yourself for being a fool when you we’re hahah. Learn to let go. Forgive those people that betrayed you, those that you feel that took you for granted or those that broke your heart.
S/o to all those people who still forgive even when people take advantage of it. Don’t stop hunny, you’re a G. Release forgiveness, be kind and always be happy . Only you can free yourself